Is fear secretly hindering you?
Or maybe you know is is.
Do you ponder worries and fears throughout the day and wish you could stop?
The vast majority of us DO have fears and worries every single day. Some react to and cope with them differently than others.
If you're like me, you needed help with them and had to have someone teach you a better way to understand and cope with them.
Now I'm on a mission to share these tools with others to help alleviate suffering.
Understanding a little bit about our brains is where you need to start.
The thing is, fear is something that was meant to be helpful. It was designed so that we keep ourselves safe from touching that hot stove again, or trying to cuddle with that grizzly bear.
We also have to find healthy ways to process them rather than avoid. Avoidance usually just makes them grow larger.
Working towards acceptance that you will have fears pop up, it's normal, and there's nothing wrong with you will be a good step towards working through these thoughts and subsequent emotions as well.
If unchecked, fears and worries will run amuck in our minds creating anxiety, over analysis paralysis, negative mindsets, and more.
So check in with yourself.
Make sure you learn to recognize if your fears are rational or if you're going overboard focusing on every tiny worry that pops into your head... then work towards understanding them, processing them and shifting your focus.
THIS IS THE GOOD PART!
I know some of you are reading like, "this is all great... but HOW!? I can't control the thoughts in my mind!"
And while that may be true sometimes, you can at least control SOME of them and you can find better ways to process them.
Here's a very brief guide to doing this:
- Learn that your thoughts cause your emotions, not circumstances.
- Become aware of your thoughts and allow them. Know that your thoughts and the emotions they cause may be painful, but will not be the end of you. (Trust me, I tell myself this all the time. If I had a dollar for every time I said to myself, "Okay B, this is so stressful and scary I feel like I'm going to die.... but I WILL NOT." I would be rich.
- Start a practice of listing your emotions you feel and the sensations in your body to help process. Instead of thinking, "omg I'm so scared, this is terrible!" WRITE IT DOWN... EX I feel scared and it makes me sweaty and my heart is racing. Do this daily for a week or two.
- After that, you're ready to move on to building new thoughts to practice. There's detailed instructions for this in this blog post or our Choosing Your New Mindset E-Workbook
••• REMINDER •••
BECAUSE YOU READ THIS....
YOU ARE AN AMAZING HUMAN WHO'S WORKING TO BETTER UNDERSTAND THEMSELVES AND BE THEIR BEST SELF.